How To Meet People in Valencia

We often get asked by people about how you can get to know people in a new city after moving here. We get asked this by all ages and by people in different relationships and also by those coming here alone. In fact it was one of the questions asked last week in our Q+A too by quite a lot of people. So it was a nice surprise when I got a request for a guest post on the site by Tom Norman who has set up a meetup group in Valencia for introverts*. As a natural introvert myself who often feels overwhelmed in group settings it felt a natural fit for the blog. So here we are. Take it away Tom.

(For those reading this thinking of offering a guest post don't, unless it's really related to Valencia and what we do, I'm not interested in your CBD, Crypto or Natural Enhancer scams)

Moving to a new city can be difficult. Whether you're moving for work, for a relationship, for retirement, or simply for a change of scene, it usually means starting from scratch and building new habits, connections and relationships from the ground up. For introverts, this idea of creating new friendships is especially challenging.

As an introvert myself, as someone who's moved to a new city not once but twice during my adult life, and as the founder of Introvert's Social Club, I'd like to share a couple of the tips that have helped me find my people over the years. I've also had my fair share of failures where I've come away from networking events feeling drained, dejected, and often self-loathing, so following these tips will help you find your people more quickly whilst minimising the stress and overwhelm that can come with it.

1. Use Tools like Meetup to Find Relevant Events

One of Valencia's countless positive points is that it has a thriving Meetup scene. For those who don't know, Meetup is a platform that's centred around events for all different interests, niches and demographics. While some cities might only have a few events per week on Meetup, in Valencia we're fortunate to have several dozen to choose from each week.

While you may need to sift through lots of extrovert-oriented events like parties and language exchanges, there are still plenty of introvert-friendly gatherings to choose from every week. Look for philosophical meet-ups, book clubs, and, of course, the Introvert's Social Club. These types of events tend to attract like-minded individuals who prefer more meaningful conversations often in quieter environments.

2. Pursue Your Hobbies in Small Group Settings

Engaging in hobbies that you love is another great way to meet people with similar interests. Look for smaller group activities such as board game nights, chess clubs, or even climbing sessions. These environments are typically more relaxed and less intimidating, making it easier for introverts to feel comfortable and open up. Plus, having an activity to focus on takes the pressure off of maintaining a conversation the entire time.

Of course, if you can speak some Spanish, you have an even wider selection of hobbies and activities to choose from. But, even without the Spanish language, there's a strong expat scene in Valencia, meaning there's always somebody out there who enjoys the same activities as you and who speaks your language, as long as you know where to look for them. That brings us onto expat groups...

3. Get Involved in Expat Groups

Expat Facebook groups can be a goldmine for finding social opportunities. Although these groups can sometimes feel noisy and overwhelming, keep an eye out for posts from people who share your interests. Engage in conversations and don't be afraid to send a private message if you find someone you click with. Building connections in these groups can lead to meaningful friendships and a supportive network.

In fact, my partner and I met our closest friends in Valencia by simply replying to a post in an expat group. We ended up meeting two other couples who moved to Valencia in the same month that we did and arranged to meet for dinner. Since then, we've stayed a close group and have even taken vacations together.

In addition to Facebook, InterNations is a similar concept where you can register for free and look for people with similar interests and attend multiple events per month. Alternatively, if you want an option that's tailored to introverts, we recently launched our own online community as part of Introvert's Social Club. With rich profiles, it's designed to help you easily find people you're likely to connect with.

4. Join Classes and Workshops

Taking a class or workshop can be a great way to meet people in a structured setting. Whether it's a cooking class, a language course, or a pottery workshop, these environments provide a natural way to interact with others over shared interests. Plus, the focus on learning something new takes the pressure off making small talk.

Again, language is the biggest barrier to entry here for some classes, so consider taking an intensive language course after moving to Valencia. Usually taught in small groups of 4-6, these can be a perfect opportunity to meet new people during your first few weeks in the city.

5. Organise Your Own Event or Meetup

If you can't find the perfect event, why not create it yourself? Organising your own meet-up might seem daunting, especially as an introvert, but it can be incredibly rewarding. As the organiser, you have a role to play, which can boost your confidence and make social interactions feel easier. In fact, this is exactly how Introvert's Social Club was born. After moving to Valencia and visiting several draining language exchanges to meet new people, I realised I wanted a way to connect with people in smaller groups, quieter locations, with deeper topics. I posted the event on Meetup to see if others resonated... two years later there are 1200 of us in the group!

Being the host is a challenge and takes you out of your comfort zone. But it also gives you a sense of control and can transform the social dynamic, making it easier for you to connect with others. Feel free to reach out to me directly if you want any tips/advice about organising your first event.

6. Volunteer for Local Organisations

Volunteering is a fantastic way to meet people while contributing to a cause you care about. Many local organisations in Valencia welcome volunteers, from dog shelters to care homes, and working together towards a common goal can foster strong connections. This setting allows for more genuine interactions and reduces the pressure to be overly social.

The lack of Spanish could be a restricting factor here, too, so keep an eye out for organisations to get involved with that might speak English too. Consider those where your knowledge of English might be a skill that they need: a refugee organisation, a local cultural institution that wants to connect with tourists, etc.

7. Get Adopted by a Café

This final point might sound strange, but hear me out. The first few months in a new city can feel quite lonely. Yes, there's a lot of excitement and curiosity as you explore a new place, but there can sometimes be a sense of loneliness if you're not sharing that experience with somebody.

Finding a café to become your "local" is a great way to start recognising some familiar faces and for feeling a bit more like a local. There's something special when the barista has memorised your regular drinks order and when you can exchange a few pleasantries every morning. As you get to know café staff a little better, they can be a great source of recommendations of activities or things going on in the city.

There are lots of opportunities to connect with others as an introvert, but it's essential to be selective and mindful of your social energy. Use tools like Meetup and expat Facebook groups to find events that cater to your interests. Pursue hobbies that allow for smaller group interactions, and don't hesitate to organise your own events. By taking these steps, you can build a fulfilling, manageable social life in this beautiful city. If you want extra help finding your crowd as an introvert, don't hesitate to reach out.

About the author

Tom Norman is the founder of Introvert's Social Club, an initiative that offers a refreshing ways to meet people in small groups through quiet, meaningful conversations and activities.

In addition to regular events, the Introvert's Social Club online community has just launched, providing a unique way to find other introverts with similar interests, organise casual meet-ups with other members, and even take advantage of some discounts at top introvert-friendly cafés in Valencia.

News From Valencia

Summer is definitely on the cusp of arriving in Valencia and with it the beach bars on the Patacona beach in Alboraya and more tourists in the city centre as the coaches and cruise ships unload their septugenarian visitors to follow someone with an umbrella through the best known places, blocking pavements and roads wherever they go. With the news that the airport is running at record levels, demand for property is also at record levels and rentals are flying off the shelves quicker than they can be advertised, the worries about massification, overheating and more are being debated.

So next week on the blog we will be looking at what will happen over the next couple of years in the Valencia property market according to "experts" in this area. I will be talking with agents, developers, notaries, lawyers and buyers and looking at what they expect and also taking a look at some of the predictions for the market that are being made. We'll be looking at rentals, sales and purchases along with trends and developments. Bookmark this site and come back next Monday as we tell you where the market is going.

Property of the Week

Let's get this one up before we have to take it down because it's sold. 425K in La Seu right in the heart of Old Valencia City. Totally modernised and ready to move in.

Brunch is a bit of a misnomer isn't it, It's really breakfast for those of us who have the luxury of managing to sleep in late and avoiding the rat race in general, or it's a second morning meal for those of us who can't manage to get through to lunch because we don't eat breakfast really (I'm looking at you Valencians with your Almuerzo obsession) or it's a brilliant idea that some of us more inventive people made up to justify an extra meal to be eaten and enjoyed rather than just to wake us up, the strong black coffee at 7am brigade who call that breakfast are lying to themselves, that's not breakfast that's punishment.

This property though is perfect for brunch however you define it and we hope it's for those who have stepped out of the Rat Race and can allow themselves the luxury of lie-ins and a large island kitchen and dining table. If you don't fancy making it though you are just 100m away from Brunch Corner considered to be one of the best Brunch places in the city, or 100m the other way to the riverbed park to picnic brunch yourself to death or cross the river to the Pergola, again considered one of the best Almuerzo places.

Two large bedrooms, two full bathrooms one with a rather divine bathtub, an office and open plan living/dining room with kitchen and the aforementioned island, you get a lot for your money in this 130m2+ centrally located apartment with light from front and back (meaning cross breezes too)

Superbly modernised while retaining aspects of the original build, beams have been reinforced, walls strengthened and spaces redefined as befits a building from the year 1900, this second floor walk up apartment is tastefully put together and superbly located both for central Valencia living and also the brilliant riverbed park nearby. Trust me, here you will neither want nor need a car and have real city living as a result.

Downsides? There's an empty plot next door (recently purchased) meaning you may get a new build going up sometime soon. You won't ever see a lift here but it's an easy enough walk up, essentially first floor despite being officially second. There's no garage for you car enthusiasts out there but spaces are available nearby. The road isn't pedestrianised so you get the odd taxi and resident car coming up it but no real traffic hum all day. A perfect place for city living and of course... brunch.

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